Finding a mate is especially challenging for Single Black Women

If we were to believe everything we read in popular media, the lines to join the nunnery would be out the door, filled with hundreds of thousands of single black women. According to study after study, the prospects are slim to none for SBW hoping to find a compatible mate. Six Degrees From Love journals the life of a SBW and her struggles with dating and other related aspects of her personal and social lives. Could this be the one SBW who'll find the one who'll put a ring on it?


Thursday, March 31, 2011

Want to fall in love over and over again? -- Read a romance novel

Right now I really want this guy named Kyle, but unfortunately he only exists in the Kindle.

Let me explain:

Like everyone else who works inside the beltway, but can’t afford to live there -- I have a ridiculous commute.  I drive, park my car, catch a “slug”, catch a bus and then walk.  And in the afternoon I do it all over again, but in reverse.  So of course, there’s plenty that I hate about my commute – but not anymore.  Last week I found a reason to love it… romance novels!

My new favorite spot on the bus is whatever seat places me directly behind my new obsession, a very conservative middle-aged grandmother–type who likes to read dirty FILTHY novels on the afternoon ride home.

Now, I have no problem with anyone who is working toward getting her groove back.  But on the bus?

For the past week, when it’s time to “clock out” I race downstairs crossing my fingers she hadn’t caught the earlier bus.  Yes! She’s in line and I hurry to stand behind her – and again I cross my fingers hoping for an open seat with a great view of her Kindle.
    
Yes, I know it's rude to read over
someone's shoulder; that's why
I try to play it off.
And while on the 15-minute ride I do everything to pretend that I’m not reading over her shoulder.  Sometimes I hide behind my newspaper, other times I fiddle with my phone, but really I’m reading right along with her, getting a daily dish of thrilling sexual stories -- the overly descriptive sexcapades between the main character Kyle and ??? (the old lady’s hands were covering the name of Kyle’s lover.)

But OMG it was especially trashy on Friday and I LOVED IT!

"Kyle laid his hand over the very core of her femininity!"
Wow! – I looked around the bus to make sure no one was watching me, hoping they didn’t know the thoughts that were running through my head, thinking to myself “Go ahead Kyle!!!"

Kyle filled his lover (and admittedly me a little bit too) with "pure waves of pleasure" at least three times, saying “it’s alright darling just let it go - we'll soar together!"

Admission:  For years I’ve loved trashy novels, not the ones with the buff guy with long golden locks, who to me always looked like he may be on the DL.  I’ve read a few Eric Jerome Dickey books: Cheaters, Friends and Lovers, and Milk in My Coffee.



I love the sexy romance storylines, and my old-lady friend and I are not alone.

Do you read romance novels?
Well more than 60% of those surveyed in this week’s Today Show poll have read at least one romance novel and admitted to either loving them or indulging in them sometimes as with a guilty pleasure.
In 2010 while book sales of most genres continued on a slippery slope toward extinction, the Association of American Publishers reported growth in the sales of romance novels.
This brings me back to my somewhat lustful crush on this fictional leading character, Kyle.  Could it be that women, like my old-lady friend and me, are setting ourselves up to be disappointed because we’ve enjoyed the fiction that unfolds on the pages of these romance novels?
I’d love to hear your thoughts – With so many of us reading these novels if there is potential to create unrealistic expectations of love and romance?

5 comments:

  1. I like how the poster of this piece is anonymous.

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  2. LOL, I must admit, I love a good ole trashy romance novel....I feel like a complete perv for admitting this but it is what it is; I enjoy reading erotica as well. For me, at times it's an escape from reality. But, do it get it twisted? NOT! I am able to distinguish fiction from reality. That doesn't mean that I have a negative outlook on the possibility of love and relationships. I simply get lost in the lives of these fictional characters and when i close the book, its back to my reality; Single and Celibate in the City!

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  3. @Bengemin Grehe: Ok ok, ha ha - I'll proudly claim this (my) post :)

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  4. disndat: "Single and Celibate in the City" - I love that, join the club! Signing off "Single and Celibate in the 'burbs"

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  5. Great post! It seems like decades since I have picked up one of those books (admittedly, I was obsessed with them in high school), but I TOTALLY get how addictive and intriguing they are :)ankfully, they never led to any unrealistic expectations of love and romance or I’d be one lost soul!

    BTW – Love your line “buff guy with long golden locks, who to me always looked like he may be on the DL.” I think my next post will be about the D-L fellas. Toned down from our “girl talk” lunch sessions, of course ;)

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